"If you're unhappy at work, or anywhere else, for that matter, it's because you've made yourself unhappy. There's an easy way to change that".
This article is an excerpt from an online blog. This is really wonderful and stress relieving. "Love the surrounding & environment more, the surrounding Loves you most".
I once knew a saleswoman, young, divorced, who got a diagnosis of breast cancer. She had to work and raise two kids while fighting the cancer. Even so, she managed to be happy at work, noticeably happier than her co-workers. In fact, she not only won her battle with cancer but subsequently became one of the top salespeople at Bristol Myers.
She was not, as it happens, naturally cheerful. Quite the contrary. When she started full time work, she was frequently depressed. But she turned it around, using the techniques I'm going to provide you in this column.
That saleswoman once told me: When you're unhappy, it's because you've decided to be unhappy.
Maybe it wasn't a conscious decision; maybe it crept up on you while you weren't looking but it was a decision nonetheless. And that's good news, because you can decide instead to be happy. You just need to understand how and why you make the decisions.
Happiness and unhappiness (in work and in life) result entirely from the rules in your head that you use to evaluate events. Those rules determine what's worth focusing on, and how you react to what you focus on.
Many people have rules that make it very difficult for them to happy and very easy for them to be miserable.
Make Yourself Happier: 3 Steps
The saleswoman who had breast cancer was happy, too, and this is the method she used to make herself happy:
1. Document Your Current Rules
Set aside a half hour of alone time and, being as honest as you can, write down the answers to these two questions:
• What has to happen for me to be happy?
• What has to happen for me to be unhappy?
Now examine those rules. Have you made it easier to miserable than to be happy? If so, your plan is probably working.
2. Create a Better Set of Rules
Using your imagination, create and record a new set of rules that would make it easy for you to be happy and difficult to be miserable. Examples:
• "I enjoy seeing the people I work with each day."
• "I really hate it when natural disasters destroy my home."
Don't worry whether or not these new rules seem "realistic" that's not the point. All internal rules are arbitrary, anyway. Just write rules that would make you happier if you really believed them.
3. Post the New Rules Where You'll See Them
When you've completed your set of "new" rules, print out them out and post copies in three places: your bathroom mirror, the dashboard of your car, and the side of your computer screen. Leave them up, even after you've memorized them.
Having those new rules visible when you're doing other things gradually reprograms your mind to believe the new rules. You will be happy at work. It's really that simple.
This article is an excerpt from an online blog. This is really wonderful and stress relieving. "Love the surrounding & environment more, the surrounding Loves you most".
I once knew a saleswoman, young, divorced, who got a diagnosis of breast cancer. She had to work and raise two kids while fighting the cancer. Even so, she managed to be happy at work, noticeably happier than her co-workers. In fact, she not only won her battle with cancer but subsequently became one of the top salespeople at Bristol Myers.
She was not, as it happens, naturally cheerful. Quite the contrary. When she started full time work, she was frequently depressed. But she turned it around, using the techniques I'm going to provide you in this column.
That saleswoman once told me: When you're unhappy, it's because you've decided to be unhappy.
Maybe it wasn't a conscious decision; maybe it crept up on you while you weren't looking but it was a decision nonetheless. And that's good news, because you can decide instead to be happy. You just need to understand how and why you make the decisions.
Happiness and unhappiness (in work and in life) result entirely from the rules in your head that you use to evaluate events. Those rules determine what's worth focusing on, and how you react to what you focus on.
Many people have rules that make it very difficult for them to happy and very easy for them to be miserable.
Make Yourself Happier: 3 Steps
The saleswoman who had breast cancer was happy, too, and this is the method she used to make herself happy:
1. Document Your Current Rules
Set aside a half hour of alone time and, being as honest as you can, write down the answers to these two questions:
• What has to happen for me to be happy?
• What has to happen for me to be unhappy?
Now examine those rules. Have you made it easier to miserable than to be happy? If so, your plan is probably working.
2. Create a Better Set of Rules
Using your imagination, create and record a new set of rules that would make it easy for you to be happy and difficult to be miserable. Examples:
• "I enjoy seeing the people I work with each day."
• "I really hate it when natural disasters destroy my home."
Don't worry whether or not these new rules seem "realistic" that's not the point. All internal rules are arbitrary, anyway. Just write rules that would make you happier if you really believed them.
3. Post the New Rules Where You'll See Them
When you've completed your set of "new" rules, print out them out and post copies in three places: your bathroom mirror, the dashboard of your car, and the side of your computer screen. Leave them up, even after you've memorized them.
Having those new rules visible when you're doing other things gradually reprograms your mind to believe the new rules. You will be happy at work. It's really that simple.
